Why I Deserted Social Media

I’m just not gonna go anymore

Illustration by Leen

Social Media Causes Hyper-Division

It’s no surprise that social media is a life-comparison tool as much as it is deemed “social.” And as the saying goes, Comparison is the thief of joy. (Theodore Roosevelt)

We all want a gold star for our “Life Masterpiece.”

With every seemingly innocent, boredom-induced casual scroll, we are taking in and subconsciously digesting other people’s Life Masterpieces on a daily basis, when we scroll the newsfeed.

We all want to be right. We want to gain the most supporters, and therefore, be the “us.”

It can be on the smallest scale, I’m a Target shopper, see? I am taking a selfie at Target with this cute jacket I was surprised to find… (P.S. That’s based on one of my own dumb posts) to a more societal level, I’m a Democrat and all Trump supporters are douchebags… (A fictional post summarizing most of my political-posting friends.)

Division isn’t new. But hyper-division is.

Yep, these divisions already exist in the real world. They always have. But social media has given us a platform, a tool, to passive-aggressively shout our stance. Or whisper it, i.e. “liking” someone’s divisive post. And it does so exponentially, due to the sheer quantity of posts and reach of each post.

The new slot machines are notifications.

I’ve read that the action of checking for notifications is being compared to slot machines.

Comparison still happens, but it’s lighter.

Tonight I met two of my girlfriends for dinner, both with different life situations than mine (i.e., aren’t single).

So, how’s life on the outside?

It’s been only a week, and I’ve been enjoying my newfound freedom.

So where do we go from here?

We all want a star for our Life Masterpiece, even if it looks really different from someone else’s.

Life isn’t perfect, until you see that it is.

It’s only now that I’ve stepped away that I see my life is perfect. It is mine, only. And I have nobody else’s to compare it to. I just live my days, enjoy the time I have with my sweet boy, and spend time with friends and myself.

Agnostic. Cancer survivor. Divorce survivor. Proud single mom. Freelance designer + illustrator. Stubborn optimist. Finding my new path.